Choice- Love or Family??

Date: 15 Apr 2009/ Views: 922 / Comments: 9

I have my boyfriend but my family is against him. I love him and he loves me too. I just don't know the right thing to do. I don't want to break up with him but that makes my family happy. They even locked me up in here have my uncle guarding me. It is really pissing me off! But every time I talked about it to my mom she doesn't even care. And I know he understands that but I’m afraid his patience will come to an end. I just want to know what is the right thing to do? Break up with him or fight for him even my whole clan will get angry with me and they will stop me from studying and my allowance? :(
- Cheitel/ Calamba, Phillipines.


# One of the toughest decision to be made; choice between the love of your life and family has never been easier. If we start a poll or a debate on this topic, I’m sure we’ll never reach to an answer. Different people, different views! So, let me just try to make it easier for you. Ask yourself these few questions and decide yourself:
1) Do you love him so much that you can’t live without him?
2) Do you think your life will be happier and good with him?
3) Do you think you can convince your family sooner or later?
4) Do you think he too loves you a lot and can keep you happy?
If you find the answers to these questions, I’m sure you’ll know what to do.

-- Dr. Teen.

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Comments: 9

1. | 27 Apr 2009 - 15:06
devil
i'll tell you a one story here it goes "there was a boy and a girl they were in deep love and one day that boy asked girl to marry that girl and then girl asked "how much you love me... " he said "i can do anything for you" and she said "cut your moms head and bring it to me" And think what he did it...but girl refused to marry....guess why she became afraid...if a boy can cut her moms head then what he'll do to her if....r u getting my point..so love of life is more important or family that give us a new life every day.....you r in the condition of that boy in the story...ahead yours will....i dnt have to say anything now.....


2. | 8 May 2009 - 23:57
hi sis, it's so simple. listen to ure heart wheather u go through against urs family or urs love. choose one option sis( aar ya paar ).
goddddddddddddd
makessssssssssss
all
right
in favour of u.


3. | 16 May 2009 - 17:06
There are things in life that are inevitable; we are powerless to control them. The Sun will rise and set, the tide will come in and go out, the seasons will change, the birds will fly south for the winter and return in the spring, and the caterpiller will transform itself into a (beautiful/handsome) butterfly. Somehow, I feel reassured by this because many other things in life are so transient - so momentary.
Asked some question to yourself and make decision which is better:-
1. How much you love to him?
2. How much he loves you?
3 Are you happy with him forever in your life?
Sit in lonely place and ask with your loving heart and get answer.


4. cooldude | 19 May 2009 - 09:07
i get a feeling that u are as much confused as i am frm above comments. not only they didnt solve your problem but caused more dilemma to it.

so now let me step in n help u . yours problem is common in our society. often families make a social barrierc surrounding caste, social status, education status n so on. but wat u got to think is they are your families n they want things for your better life. sometimes we make mistake n we dont realize it thats when a family is needed.

talk with your mum calmly n ask wat is problem with u being with him. try to find where the problem lies n communicate with your bf abt this matter. he sure will understand n if he luvs u truly he will be ready to change for u.

but if the problem is abt caste or his family social status then calmly walk to your family and say that u have break up with him n announce u wouldnt be marrying anyone in your life n u decided to study for whole life so they wouldnt have to worry abt u anymore!

n regardinng abt him leaving u, dont worry a bit abt it is a test between your luv. believe me i have seen a couple waited for each other 13-14yrs(due to family probe abt caste) n last their families got no choice but to marry them. i know its hard but u get to know how strong your luv is. i hope u decide to do right thing.angel

*p.s. don't forget to reply.


5. | 9 Jun 2009 - 16:38
it's too hard to say wht you do. I think u can leave ur family coz if u get ur bf thn one day your family accept you and ur bf. and if u leave ur bf then u cannot find him in future... so go and give him a big hug and happy in life.

wishes


6. | 26 Jun 2009 - 13:08
dear sis,here is not clear in your age n an education
If u r 22 yrs n your education is graduate ,n your bf education is also graduate.Certainly your n your bf thinking power is almost should be right.If isn't there will be ? in your future life.becauce This century is not for the uneducated people.people can life without certificate but he must face more stragle in his whole life .life is not a joke,life is not a doll.if want to make happy life every body must think about future. All parents ,why they expend money to his child? Whose parents don't want to see happy life his family's member?
i think ,this is 21 century ,every parents must think about this.but if you are teeneger, teeneger age is blind age ,don't hurry.Life is long.Think before you decide.what is mean "BLIND"
same as this age.


7. | 27 Jun 2009 - 10:31
hi sis,Actually,life is long and beautiful too.It is depend on teeneger because how much take care her n his carriers.Every teen cannot think deeply same as me.So if u r going to deeply in your love "Becareful".We need many things in our life not only bf.Every bf says oh i love you so much,bla ,bla......We must think about after marry.We,the fair sex always getting troble by man.Man are always evergreen but women are not as same.Women life is same as glass.man can love 123...But women cannot.Why?There is so so many questions.Hense,u have lot of time , but never mis use yr love.This is very thinkable so think before what is wrong n what is right ok.


8. | 29 Jun 2009 - 09:28
hi sis,
i read all of comment .According to your qustion's answer almost right. 85% people says there is not only yrs family problem there yrs bf also might be same things.
Every teen must know about both family's activity
n if u r doing lov in out of country.are u sure he has not gf in his home country? but all boys says no no no....but i don't believe because this story is same as main.
So pls careful, life is not toys anywhere u can use.There is so many unseen boundries.
so u think which is right n wrong.


9. santosh kc | 23 Nov 2009 - 11:36
u havent mentioned ur age here..
i think u are matured to get married according to ur letter..
first of all, think about that guy, how much he loves u, how much is he serious in ur relationship..
and another thing, why did ur parents dont likes ur relationship???
these are the main things u need to understand..
if u think, u can be happy forever with ur bf, and could accept every hurdles even after fighting with ur parents, then marry with ur bf...
otherwise think nicely...
its ur life,no one has right to play with ur feelings..
all the best


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