Hi, well I have a boy friend who I think cares about me a lot. He always makes sure if I eat in time or not etc. But the problem I'm having is insecurity. I met my boyfriend in my college. It's almost one year that we're together. He told me that before he met and came to know me he had a crush on a girl which is from my college. He was honest with me but I don't know why whenever I see that girl, I start feeling jealous and end up in fighting with him. I really love him and I can't tolerate him complimenting other girls. Does he love that girl? Is it possible that u think a certain girl is beautiful but in love with other gal? Please help me, thank you. I hope to hear from you soon.
- Tina/ Kathmandu.

# Dear Tinani, I always compliment, and have always adored Katrina Kaif, I praise almost all the girls who are in my contact. Does it mean I love all of them? Yes Tina, it is possible that a certain girl is beautiful, another girl is lovely and in love with yet another girl. Wait a minute!! That is just in case of girls. What if he says a particular man is handsome? Do you assume he’s gay? Hahahahaha!!! Please, get rid of this feel from your heart forever. Don’t forget, he cares for you not that other girl, doesn’t he? Why did your boyfriend mention about his crush, at the very first place, anyway? This is building insecurity and jealousy in you, which is very dangerous. See! Already you guys sometime end up fighting.

It’s a good thing that you’ve already recognized your problem. Well done! And that makes my job easier so, why don’t I just give some tips today to fight with insecurity and Jealousy.

- The first, most important thing is you need to increase your self esteem and confidence. Okay, another girl is beautiful but you’re more beautiful than her, that’s why he loves you and cares for you, though he might not have uttered it in the last few days.

- Don’t suppress your feelings and let him know why you are insecure. There’s no harm in being honest so, open your heart and find yourself much lighter.

- Think positive. Positive thinker can easily conquer his/ her fear. Don’t let this fear of losing him creep inside your heart.

- The reason you are insecure is because of this jealousy and fear of losing him.

- Avoid comparison which creates unnecessary competition and results in jealousy and thus insecurity.

- Relax and have fun in life. There is nothing like chilling out to treat an insecure mind. The purpose of life is to enjoy every approaching moment and it should not be lost in riddling yourself with your unfounded fears. It is necessary to contemplate the reasons behind your fears and insecurities; then take steps to get rid of them. However, life is too precious to bother about them continuously. So, don’t miss out on the excitement in your life.

There’s already a problem similar to yours posted in babbaal.com, please follow the link
http://www.babbaal.com/problems.php?id=1347


- - Dr. Teen.


P.S. Tinani = Tina Nani (My style, No offense)

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